What is sex therapy



Sex therapy is  a form of behavior therapy or counseling using clinical skills to assess and treat non-medical factors that contribute to intimacy and sexual problems. It can be helpful to people of  all ages, sexual orientation and genders.

Sex therapists assess trauma, performance anxiety, intimacy and sexual dysfunction, and sexual attitudes that may interfere with healthy sexuality.

Sex Therapy is a professional and ethical (non-touch) treatment approach to problems of sexual function and expression.

Sex therapy is NOT about having sex in the office.



What does the therapist do.



The sex therapist helps you define your particular sexual dysfunction and addresses the resulting sexual distress in an individual or couple.

Sex therapy consists of discussions in the therapist office, along with special exercises designed to make  you feel  more relax in in sexual interactions.



How can sex therapy help me



Sex therapist are experience licensed professionals who have specialized training in treating sexual sexual problems. Often people consult a sex therapist with issues such as but not limited to:

• Lack of desire
• Sexual pain
• Arousal problems
• Vaginismus
• Communication among couples
• Erectile and ejaculatory dysfunction
• Difficulty achieving orgasm'Sexual compulsions and additions
• Sexual challenges exacerbated by age, illness, medications, infertility and other life events
• Problems resulting form sexual trauma and abuse
• Lack of education

Do I Need to be in a relationship to see a therapist



No, you don't.  There are many problems that one can successfully deal with in  individual sex therapy. 



What is relationship counseling



People seeks relationship counseling for a variety of reasons. The most obvious reason people attend couples counselling is when the partners in a relationship are having difficulty getting along.

Couples often present with communication troubles, frequent argument, emotional  ups and downs, feelings of distance, betrayal of contempt, affairs or disagreement over basic relationship issues such as money, sex or time.



When should I consider therapy



Simply put, when you need help.

Life is very complicated and we all have soft spots of indecision, anxiety, sadness and  depression. Depending on the your world at the time, these feelings can become overwhelming. Talking to family, friends and spouses is helpful but not objective and not supported by clinical practice. Often we become aware of emotional states that have lingered throughout life and seem to be getting away from us.  Even those dreaded TV commercials may spark a thought that the person on the screen is  YOU.
When your head gets damaged from walking into the same wall, it’s time.
For some, therapy may feel like a fall from grace.  It may seem to you a sign of weakness. I believe it’s a sign of courage.  When we cam look at ourselves and recognize that we are a little lost, in pain, or just need a clearer vision of a problem, therapy can be a life-saver



Can the therapist teach me how to have sex



Not really. A sex therapist in the past was much more behaviorally focused when it came to technique and specific details. Today there are a number of excellent books and tapes that will provide that level of instruction.The therapist use book references often and can guide you to the best material.

What the therapist  can does is provide accurate information, talk easily about sexual matters, and most importantly, help to facilitate your ability to be intimate. Assuming there is no physical problem (if there is the therapist can refer and provide introduction to professionals who can help), most sexual problems come from lack of knowledge, poor self-esteem, and unhealthy relationship skills.  And again, there is never any value in assigning blame. We all bring our own deficits to the problem and we need to learn to be accountable and introspective to be better partners.



How long does therapy take.



The first therapy sessions can take 1.5-2 hour due to the assessment  and intake process. After that a sessions usually is 50 min.

Therapy, the kind that helps personal growth and resolves difficult issues, requires commitment and thoughtfulness. What happens during a session should be continued outside the door. Some clients never think about a thing, or bring up any of the subjects talked about, unless at the appointed therapy hour. This slows the work down and makes the effectiveness less successful.  It is not a meaningless exercise to analyze why the material is being sidelined.

Therapy is work. It’s not just a news report of the week passed. It is a planned time to sit down and focus on whatever you decide on that day. Generally, there is nothing unimportant. Every subject is connected in some way to a core issue. So if you think you've nothing to talk about, just see what comes up. Trust the Process.